My favorite musician,Mr.Bob Marley- one of the ones that resonates with my heart says “Everyone will hurt you, it’s for you to find the ones worth suffering for”.
It’s true that it’s easy to close yourself up and be emotionless, and not feel. I do that all the time,to ensure that these emotions don’t cloud my sense of judgment. At my age, I’ve succeed about 30-40% of the time. That’s not such a high score is it? Well, back to the matter at hand.
To feel is to be alive, I believe. And to know what and why you are feeling is to live.
See , numbing yourself to the painful feeling is numbing yourself to the beautiful feeling. However, understanding where these feelings are arising from and what triggers these feelings, is to understand what makes you tick,and that the tick might be positive or the tick might be negative.
The positive tick or as Bob would say, “Some positive vibration” is something I describe as a warm tingly feeling of excitement. It’s usually caused by the things that make you feel alive, for example, family, love, good music, good sex, good company, good fortune, pride towards your achievements,abundance, dancing, singing…continue listing them in your head. These are the things you should do more of, and allow yourself to feel whenever the sensation arises.
In comes the negative tick. The feeling(s) can be described as heavy, painful, cold or plain uncomfortable. Caused by fear, sadness, hurt, betrayal, disappointment…continue listing them in your head. It’s okay to feel these things when they arise, because they always do .
Understanding what each of these feelings explain is what I’m beginning to recognize as ’emotional intelligence’. And,using these feelings to guide you through life and your interaction with your immediate environment; which includes animate and inanimate objects is something that is worth learning.
Song: Affairs of the heart-Damian Marley (Such a coincidence hehe)